Caregiving is challenging enough without other family members giving their opinions on how you approach your elderly loved one’s Summit in-home care. However, handling caregiver criticism is often part of the job. While it is frustrating to hear negative thoughts when you are doing your best to care for your loved one, there are some ways to minimize their impact upon your wellbeing.
1. Delay Your Response
It can be tempting to bite right back after someone offers you a nasty bit of advice. However, this only leads to more animosity. With time, you may even realize the person’s criticism came with the best of intentions. Asking for some time to think about what was said is sometimes the best response to criticism. You can bring the topic up later when you are focused and know what you want to say.
2. Identify the Underlying Motivation
Considering the source can be an effective strategy for handling caregiver criticism because it gives you insight into why someone is asserting his or her opinion. One family member might be criticizing your care because he or she craves attention, while another might feel guilty because he or she lives far away and can’t help care for your loved one. Once you identify the motivation, you can then address the true issue.
3. Ask for the Help You Need
As much as you don’t want to hear it, there may sometimes be a little truth to the criticism you receive. For example, your spouse may say you spend too much time caring for your senior loved one when really he or she is just worried about you taking on too much stress. If you find the criticism is justified, ask for help. Whether you request Summit respite care or some help from other family members, making a positive change can help put an end to the criticism.
4. Vent to Someone Else
When negativity begins to take its toll, it needs to be released. For this reason, you may need to find a person you can talk to while someone else cares for your loved one. Schedule an appointment with a therapist, have a gripe session over coffee with a friend, or join a support group where you can meet on a regular basis to talk about your caregiving ups and downs. By reaching out to someone else for support, you will be better prepared the next time criticism heads your way.
Being the primary caregiver for a senior loved one isn’t easy, and family and friends aren’t always available to give you the support you need. If you could use additional help caring for your loved one, turn to Home Care Assistance. Our caregivers can assist with a wide variety of important daily tasks, including exercise, transportation, cooking, and bathing. For more information on part-time and live-in home care Summit families can trust and rely on, call one of our friendly Care Managers at 908.450.9400 today.